She doesn't like me but I can't let her go. It's been 3 weeks now that I've been trying to avoid her to get her off my mind but it doesnt work. please don't say something like '; go find another girl'; because then i would just be using that girl to keep my mind of this oneHow to stop thinking of a girl? need advice?
1.Cross out or erase her name anywhere you might have written it (e.g your notebook, your textbook, the wall of your bedroom, etc.)
2.Avoid all eye contact with them and try not to look longingly at his/her nose. You'll be more likely to get over the crush if you aren't always staring at her.
3.Act a bit more unpleasant around them than your usual temperament. They may act unpleasant back and won't seem as attractive to you, but be warned, you may lose out on a relationship with another person if you are too mean.
4.Try being honest with them about your feelings. If you find out that he doesn't have any feelings for you, it will be easier for you to get over it.
5.Don't get angry at them, especially if they don't understand how deeply you feel for them. They didn't do anything wrong and getting angry is just going to push them further away and destroy your friendship.
7.Don't spend too much time thinking by yourself or about yourself. You will most likely be thinking about her and start feeling depressed. Hang out with friends, try making new recipes or experimenting with art. Develop your talents and make goals for yourself.
9.Learn from the experience and come out stronger.
10.Accept! Always remember that the toughest part will be to observe your best friend be normal around you while you could struggle to do so. There is no way around it but to accept that everything cannot possibly be reciprocated.
11.Try falling out of love/lust. Make lists of all the things that go against being attracted to her - love is blind, try to voluntarily open your eyes.
12.Keep in mind, if you are madly and hopelessly in love/lust, be patient. Don't be too clingy, but continue on as normal, being your wonderful self and show him/her how awesome you are. She might just realize one day that they have been blind this whole time and confess their love; after all, love is just friendship on fire.
14.Try not to dwell on it, and either go out and make some new friends, or hang out with the old.
15.It's not healthy to keep hoping they will one day feel the same. Try to emancipate yourself from them for a while so that you can rid yourself of your feelings for them, because if you don't, the time you spend around them will be tense and bittersweet.
16.Try to stop thinking about her. You'll only feel worse if you do. Meet new people, talk to your friends.
17.Don't let them see how upset you are. If they know, it'll only make them feel bad and they might start avoiding you. Act like nothing happened and maybe mention another person you think is hot. If they start liking you back, then that's great. Hope it all works out. If they don't, then just keep this up until you find someone else.
18.Consider the possibility of letting them see you with someone else. Act nicely. Sometimes people don't realize what they could have had until the opportunity is gone. If they don't start liking you back at this point, it's really time to stop crushing on them and meet new people.
20.Accept it. Whether your window of opportunity came and went, or they're just not into you, acknowledge the reality of the situation. Tell yourself the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
21.Move on. Make a promise to yourself to get over it. If you're posting this question on Yahoo Answers, you're ready to take this step, so just do it.
22.Reassure yourself. Look in the mirror every morning, smile, and tell yourself, ';You're worth it.'; Really mean it. You didn't do anything wrong, and right now there's someone else out there for you. And it always helps to remind yourself that they are the ones that are going to be missing out on you.
23.Maintain your decision. If you find yourself slipping, remember the promise you made to yourself.
24.Associate. If and when you catch yourself thinking about your crush, pick out something about them that you dislike, and focus on it. Be honest. You may have built a fantasy of them in your head, but in reality they're not as great.
25.Distract yourself. Go out with your friends and have fun. Meet new people. Find a show or a game to immerse yourself in. Keep yourself busy and happy.
26.Take care of yourself. Keep well-groomed and put on your best clothes. It will do wonders for yourself esteem. Remember step three.
28.Live life. You're a great person and she was a fool not to see that. Before you know it you'll be back on track.How to stop thinking of a girl? need advice?
Firstly, Bravo to you for not using another girl! Seriously, you have no idea what great revelations that makes about your personaity! that alone makes me wonder why she's not interested in you.
Unfortunately, the only advice I can offer is to keep doing what youre doing. I know it sucks, and no one likes that feeling in the pit of their stomach, but eventually you'll ';get over her'; (for lack of a better word).
Basically you've got to let yourself get tired of the feeling. three weeks in, now, you shouldn't have much longer. The most likely outcome is that you will find another girl, or another girl will find you. Someone, somewhere will say or do something that will catch your attention, and you'll be able to take interest in someone else.
email me a more in depth scenario. i cant seem to give a good answer without weighinng out the options of whether or not shes a best friend, a class mate, a co-worker, or a good friend you known for along time.
knowing that would give a completely different answer
however,
but generally to stop thinking about a person is simple';
time: time eventually fades people out. sorry no other answer.
going to find another girl isnt going to make u stop. if anything it will make you more crazy.
best thing to do is, live you life. go about with school work friends. and eventually day by day week by week she will disappear from you mind.
Well, what do you want us to tell you? There is no magic cure. I mean you could try chamomile tea and emo music, or strong whiskey and the blues, or you could just bang your head against the sink, but I don't think any of that will work either.
It seems now like another girl would just be a distraction, but you might change your mind if you actually find one. Hemingway said the only cure for a woman is another woman. He knew what he was talking about. Then again, he did kill himself.
Hi o.0,
You want to stop thinking about her. How do you know that she doesn't like you. Read what you said: (It's been 3 weeks now that I've been trying to avoid her to get her off my mind). What has happened that you are tormenting yourself)? Did you go out with her and later she told you she didn't like you? Have you talked to her ever? Do you want to talk to her? Do you even know her? If you want to get over her I think you need to face your fears.
If you think she doesn't like you:
1. Go to her and Introduce yourself ask her if you unknowingly did or said anything wrong to her that you didn't apologize for. Or
2. Tell her that you've been seeing her and you think she is gorgeous. Or
3. Ask her if she would mind excepting your cell #. That you would really like to talk to her. If she calls always be a gentleman. Let her know that you would like to ask her out. If she cared to and whatever she wanted to do would be cool.
4. If you are rejected don't feel like it is the end of the world.
She may not be dating or she may have a BF or she may not like you that way. There is a girl out there for you. You have to be a man about this. Girls like strong guys that stand up for them and for themselves. You are no wimp. I know you are not going to let your boys see you sweating over a girl. If she doesn't like you she has that right. You are not going to like all the girls you meet anyway. So take a chance and see what happens. You don't have her so you have nothing to lose if she says no.
I've got a few suggestions:Try working on a crossword puzzle or just a jigsaw puzzle itself.If that doesn't work get on youtube and maybe find something that might interest you.Usually the music videos,prank calls,or something that made the news recently.
I noe how u feel.. i have been in such a situation.... its goin to be difficult but try to keep ur self occupied.... try doin things that requires to wrk ur brain all the tym.. be around ur friends... wen walking around here and there...
But the thing is.... if u keep these things in mind... u will basically will be thinkn of her... so my man.. now its to noe that there is no wat around this... u will always like her.. no matter what...
so instead just think she wont be urs... and get on with it.. be a friend...
this is the only way without using another girl....
u will be exceptional if u actually progress..
Best of luk... temme how it goes...
aww..it's nice that you don't want to just use a girl! i think you should try focusing on other things like a project or spend more time with your friends.
if that doesn't work try TALKING to other girls. It doesn't mean that you have to like them, but just try getting to know them. who knows, maybe you'll end up liking that person!
Make some new friends who are girls. Take up a hobby. Drawing, Writing, an instrument, ect. When you start thinking of this girl, do something, play loud music, watch television, talk to someone. Don't try to avoid the girl too much, just try not to communicate with her as much. Hope this helped. :)
No, you really can't do much about that, unfortunately. Sometimes exercise helps, though. Something about getting the blood moving helps your brain let go of those repetitive thoughts. And just think about how hot you'll look when you're in great shape...she won't know what she's missing! :)
you have two options: 1. make her like you (insist, joke, etc.) if you think there's a chance... and usually is. 2. wait a long time (if you say you are sooo into her) and you will find the power to look for somebody else, even if you are still in love with her. I was in such a situation too and I've chosen the first one :). Sorry for my possible bad english.
There is a reason you can't stop thinking about her. You love her. You should try to get her back. Show her how much she means to you and that you can't stop thinking about you. It should work.
Watch a Disney movie
I have also been having this problem recently and my advice to you is stop trying to let her go. It is absolutely impossible. You will sooner or later just forget.
Seriously, you can't.
Best wishes. That's all I can offer. It's been 19 months for me so as far as advice goes, if I had some solution for an ';off switch'; I'd have used it ages ago.
sports
video games
hang out with the guys
learn a new subject!
buy something that will make you feel good
eat yummy stuff
';If someone's stuck in your head, maybe they're supposed to be there';
:)
try to picture her taking a huge **** and not wiping her ***. then picture her throwing up and not brushing her teeth
she don't like you what else is there if you wont move on waisting your time on her
Use punching bag or try bunji jumping........
Exactly and thats the only option. What do you think there is some stop love pill? science aint magic!
it's never easy but you just need to go out and have some ';bro fun';
theres not ';method';, you just have to get on with ur life and forget about her.
close ur eyes
get a hobby, i draw alot when i cant get something off my mind
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