Love is all about appearances (girl advice only)?

Hi I'm 18 years old and I am having dating issues. I can barley talk to a girl because I'm afraid of getting judged. I'm a freshman in college, I don't have a car and I am currently unemployed, and to top it off I am a little husky, not fat just some weight, At this point in my life I have never had a real girlfriend and it hurts my ego and soul, I am spiraling into depression. What can I do.Love is all about appearances (girl advice only)?
Us women aren't necessarily picky on looks. There's some people I've seen that weren't too handsome that I would have dated because of their humor and care. Most of my friends go out with some beautiful but cruel boys. So the lesson here is just don't get nervous. We usually don't bite. Hee hee. And we're just like you. We make mistakes, maybe even more than you. LOL. So good luck. And if it makes you feel any better, I haven't dated anyone, and I'm almost 16. Almost everyone in my school has had a boyfriend/girlfriend, even the freshmen. So don't worry.Love is all about appearances (girl advice only)?
well look at it by the bright side at least you havent ever got you heart crush by someone. when the right girl comes she will come..
You my dear have to learn to loveyour self first. Someone will come along much faster when they see how happy you are in your life alone, then if they see you depressed. UNLESS they are the controling trype of unstable woman who thinks she can be a superhero and save you, in which the relationship will fizzle out short after she uses you.





Learn to love your self for who you are, some one when the time is right will join you.


I know this because not loving your self makes you depend on people, and the first girl who shows interest in you , you will falsly think your in love because of that feeling you will get of being liked/loved. Then when it fades you will feel like your not loved, and or if she breaks up with you, you will spiral again and look for a rebound, THUS you never knowing who you really are and what makes you happy in life other then having a partner by your side. Dont fall into the desperate ness of desire for love. The love you really need starts within, then it expands over time to someone special.
Well done for taking the first step which is realising what you think is not going well! It's great you've managed to evaluate yourself like that, but maybe a little more confidence would be great! And that would attract a girl alot.





Don't be afraid of talking to girls, most are really want to talk to guys, and would be so greatful for you just to talk to them.





Going to the gym would be an awesome idea, for many reasons, great place to meet girls (guys that work out can be a turn on) , you would loose that weight you're worried about and this exercise would probably boost you're confidence!





You sounds like a great guy so don't give up hope!
OMG Dont Kill Yourself x I Have Family That Went into depression But They Got Over It


There Must Be A Girl That Would Want To; But You Just Need Support





Pleaase Dont Kill Yourself
1) get a job


To date a girl you need to have money, its a fact of life


A girl also wants someone she knows is self sufficient and if things were to get more serious she'd know she'd be provided for.


2) Weight really doesn't have much affect i mean 10-25 pounds overweight is no big deal


3) Shyness is something i know SOOO many guys struggle with but to get a girlfriend really need to step out of your comfort zone


4) See a girl crying? Comfort her.. even if you don't know her


Girls need someone who is there for them and is compassionate towards others


5) Don't be afraid of being judged whether you like it or not you're being judged by not saying anything at all


A lotta times when a guy isnt saying anything I might think he's just stuck up..so try to say something. I mean you don't have to compliment her or anything but comment on something she says or something that happens nearby to her. Make a little joke..but you don't have to have a conversation with her. (yet anyways)
Kyla's an idiot!


Dude it's okay being single too...like you dont get the hurts and stuff. Enjoy it while you can. I do love my baby though
if you don't like your weight, change it. work out, go running or a gym. those are good ways to meet a girl. as for being unemployed, get a job. or try to. don't get down on yourself! confidence is key!
It's okay to not have a job while you are in school. You are bettering yourself, and that is attractive. Take pride in yourself for becoming educated. Husky men can be very sexy, as long as you are nicely groomed, and wear trendy clothes that FIT. 18 is still young, so don't get down on yourself for not having had a ';real'; girlfriend.





hang in there champ! you will be fine
Well you named all the issues so you could start by working on those. Try finding a part time job, this way you'll make money and meet new people.


You could also go to a gym or join some kind of sports class, this way you'll whip yourself into shape and meet new people. Exercise also releases endorphins which make you feel happier.


As for the girls, you'll never know unless you try, having some confidence is appealing to girls and believe it or not it's not all about looks.





Good luck!
If They Judge You It Is There Loss Who Cares?! Depression ? Is A Little Extreme Just Have Fun Being Single
the more you look down, the worse things will seem to get. stop thinking about what you haven't got and then look at what you have got. build on it. both personally and possesions-wise.


judging is human nature-- but if you think badly of yourself then it's likely others will also think badly of you because it reflects. Act how you want you people to perceive you. once you feel a bit more confident you can start losing weight and once you're losing weight, it's likely you'll be a more attractive person.





the more you tell yourself that you're depressed, the deeper you fall into depression because your unconscious hears you and listens and believes. BE POSITIVE.
Stop wasting your time looking for the girls.They just cheat on u %26amp; leave u all alone just for another man.So i think u should wait for the right girl in ur life who can give u everything that u ever dream of.
Well, i would start by getting a job, whether it's in a fast food place or an internship. I would start working out, lifting weights, jogging. Don't worry about being judged, just say hi and talk to people. Good luck:) Be confident!
None of the ';negatives'; that you've just described are at all negative for a freshman in college, in my opinion. Most of my friends freshman year didn't have a car or a job. That didn't matter a bit to me. Also, many of the boys I found to be the most charismatic, interesting and attractive were a bit on the heavy side. My biggest turn on is intelligence.





One tip--when you see someone you know, male or female, act as though you're thrilled to see them. This is very flattering, and will make that person feel like your friend.





Also, don't worry about never having had a real girlfriend. It's so much easier than you think to find someone to date--the trick is knowing how to be selective. Good luck!
Honestly, I don't think that love is all about appearance. It's about the person inside. Not about what kid of job they have, what kind of car they have, or even how they look. All of that could be gone in flash. Even though you are unemployed at the moment, you are in college, and that means you are working toward a future. Girls like that. They like to know that the guy will work hard to succeed. My advice to you is, maybe stop ';looking'; for a girlfriend, and maybe just become friends with a few girls. Go up to them, strike a conversation about something that interests you. And have confidence. If it's meant to be...it's meant to be. =) good luck!
you're a freshman, there are a lot of girls you haven't met.


be confident and talk to some, as if you don't care what they're thinking, girls like confidence. try to be outgoing. you can do it.
You seriously need to get your sh** together. You can't be afraid of rejection or you'll end up lonely forever. Just remember that everyone has or will be rejected at some point in their dating lives. You're 18 now, so get a job, save money to buy a car and to be able to buy yourself nice things once in a while, and be able to take a girl out on a date. Start exercising...it will boost your self-esteem and make you feel better about yourself (and its been proven to alleviate symptoms of depression). Don't feel bad about not having a girlfriend yet...but seriously the only way to improve your situation is to stop feeling sorry for yourself and start doing something about it.
asking yourself why is not gonna do anything.


getting yourself out there and asking a girl out will.


everyone gets rejected. it's normal.


you don't have to dress like someone else. just take a little longer to make yourself look good.


smile a lot so it makes you look approachable.


maybe do something different with your hair. college has a lot of girls.. so you can chose which one you want.


fear is holding you back.


so now conquer it.


start off by talking to the girl you sitting next to. start conversation with her. and if you like her personality then ask for her number.
BRING YOUR WHINNEY SISSY BOY *** TO TENNESSEE AND ILL PUT YOU ON MY FARM DOING SOME MAN WORK. THEN YOULL REALIZE WHAT A GREAT LIFE YOU HAVE.
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dont worry, maybe for now u should work on just being friends with them. when you have great friends ur self esteem goes up and u can start to see girls as more than just possble girlfriends and more like.. just normal people? good luck
Appearance and money are not every girl's top priorities. Why not ask her to a free college activity ( there are usually movies, lectures, and other activities students can attend for free) and see what happens. Another thing you can do is join a club (ecology, astronomy etc). You will have a built in common interest with the members. Concentrate on having fun and friends and eventually a girlfriend, will follow.
ask a girl out and go for it!!!
love is so not all about appearances. sure, you can blame the fact that you are having dating problems on your appearance. but there are girls out there who feel the same way. You need to have a great personality and be funny and nice.