What is your advice for a girl who wishes to marry someone from a different race and religion?

She knows her parents wont agree but she decides to tell them anyway.





Whats the best approach to tell them without making a scene or upsetting them too much?





ThanksWhat is your advice for a girl who wishes to marry someone from a different race and religion?
Expect to compromise. On both sides, not just you giving everything up and him running the show. My ex husband was Pakistani. I am American. He was one of those slow moving types. The thing was, I caught on and stopped letting him move at all. I went to college against his anger, I got a job against his anger, and basically used all of my rights as a muslim woman which made him, completely into his culture. very angry. He broke my bones and I dislocated a disc in his spine in response. I also divorced him. I am back with my first love, a Nigerian man who recently converted to Islam. Except, he's not run by culture and pretty much goes with the flow. And reliable. And sweet. Oh, wait, back to the question.... (blushing).....tell your parents and tell them that it is you who will have to live the life, not them. If they are not looking for your happiness, then they don't need to look out for their's either. You need to live your life as your life will affect you when nobody else is left. Trust your instincts.What is your advice for a girl who wishes to marry someone from a different race and religion?
Speak the truth in love.
If I were her, I'd bring a group of friends(the man included) over to the house for a few dinners first and introduce them.





Then, keep doing this for a few months or for quite a few times and progress to heart-to-heart talks with her parents.





If I were her, I'd take a few months at least to prepare them. Dropping a bomb might make things worse as many people often resort to confrontation during/after a shock, to make their views heard. Furthermore, if her parents don't or can't take the shock very well, they might resort to some very drastic actions that could tear apart the family.





Anyways, I suggest reading up a bit on this topic to prepare herself for the questions she should ask and the actions she should take.
Well if this person believes in the God that you believe in that's fine, but it becomes a problem when you marry some one unequally yoked 2 Cor 6:14. If you believe in God and they believe in something else this is exactly what this is. So knowing this, if you were told don't take the path to the left you could die would you do it for the sake of what you feel and take your chances at dying. Or would you use wisdom and knowledge and say Well I've already been warned I can't go that way. The choice is strictly up to you. As far as your parents if your grown and you have made your choice so be it tell them and just deal with it like the obstacle you'll face marrying into a different religion.
as long as you love each other you can overcome anything.


i would start by telling them about all the good qualities he has, and how much you love him.


it took my mom a while, but she came to love my husband.





don't let the possible problems keep you from being together.
Don't do it. The bible is clear on this.


';Do not become unevenly yoked';


This kind of marriage leads to strife, and torment for children born from it.


Much misery for you and them.
Depends how old this ';girl'; is. If you are old enough me make decisions and don't rely on your parents financially, or whatnot, then you should be able to tell them with confidence. Don't allow a big scene to occur. Make if very clear to them that this is your choice, your life, and that while you hope for their understanding and blessing it is not essential to your decision. If your parents love you and care about your happiness, then this shouldn't be an issue. If they make it an issue, you are well with in your rights to tell them to kiss-off. People make tough choices sometimes, it happens, but you have to know when to stop allowing your parents to dictate your behaviors/choices/lifestyle. Good luck!
They must not be that concerned to have let you get caught in that situation in the first place. If they had held up their responsibility as parents this would never have happened. So they are equally to blame as you are. Of course you can still call it off if you are not already knocked up. If that's the case there is nothing to do but just tell them and face up to the fact of trailer living and that your life will be Hell until it is over. God still loves you and your Christian brothers and sisters will pray for you. But there goes your European vacations. God Bless.
A good thing to remeber when marrying outside your race is that often, there are going to be big cultural differences. If this doesn't bother her and she will welcome the differences, then all the more power to her.





As for different religions, this is a bit trickier - especially depending on the type of religion. If both are devout in their faith - then what do you raise the children? Is one parent going to sacrifice not being able to practice their religion with their children? If you try to raise the children both, it gets very confusing.





If they can work this out BEFORE they are married, that is all the better.
as long as the girl loves the guy and can communicate with him well.. and he understands her... just tell the parents truthfully and fully explain her love and dedication to the guy...
make sure you get married for all the right reasons.
Deceit begets deceit. The truth is always the best approach.
Well you just have to tell them.





Make sure that you have all the religious issues worked out ahead of time. The divorce rate is high enough without the added pressure of how you are going to raise the kids. Everyone has to really be on exactly the same page here because it is easy to hit an impasse that you can't get over.
Start by saying how much you are in love and all the wonderful things about the guy you wish to marry.





Then when they begin to say he sounds wonderful, religion and race shouldnt matter!





Good luck!