What advice would you give to a 14 year old girl who desperately wants to have a baby?

My 14 year old daughter is adamant in wanting to get pregnant. She does not care who gets her pregnant, she just wants a baby.What advice would you give to a 14 year old girl who desperately wants to have a baby?
tell her to stop being an idiotWhat advice would you give to a 14 year old girl who desperately wants to have a baby?
Often a girl of this age wants a child because she wants to be loved and thinks that this is the only way. If you can get her into type of volunteer work where she is working with children, she may be able to develop some rapport with children, indulge that maternal instinct without trapping herself into early motherhood, and get the emotional connection she is craving so desperately in a safer way.





Some girls in my high school wanted to become pregnant at this early age in order to hold onto boyfriends who were pressuring them for (1) sex (in order to demonstrate their virility) and (2) in order to get out of their own homes by receiving welfare. If there is something that is driving your daughter out of the house, you should find out what it is. Some of these girls in my youth were victims of incest and didn't dare tell their moms. Some were being beaten at home by stepfathers or stepbrothers. They saw this having a baby as their only way out of a truly impossible situation. Back then, there were no women's shelters for them to turn to and they had no other relatives they could ask for help.





So I'd say you first need to have some long heart-to-hearts with your daughter to find out what's behind this adamant desire. Begin educating her on all that's involved in caring for a child, as if you were going along with the idea, so that you can get her to open up. Because if worst comes to worst and she does go through with it and does get pregnant, you'll be picking up the pieces. You don't want her running away and having that baby by herself and becoming a prostitute because she feels she has no other options -- as some of those girls in my high school ended up doing.
She is a baby herself. Let me take her to work with me one day. I am a midwife on labour ward. I can soon put it out of her mind.





Does she think this is a fashion accessory? You must do anything and everything to make her realise that not only could she become pregnant but she could also become HIV positive, Hepatitis positive, catch chlamydia, ghonerra, herpes not to mention many other permanent damage.


Good luck
THERE IS nothing you can say or do- NEED TO let her baby sit someones kid for a weekend BASICALLY ALONE.


i think most girls go thru this stage, i remember doing it, but i wasn't ever going to ATTEMPT it, thats the difference in this era. The idea eventually went away...so find something to distract her, SPORTS , drama class, debate TEAM something, to get her mind off her selfish self, whose feeling down and wanting unconditional LOVE.
She needs to have one of those fake babies they assign in school nowadays. The ones that do EVERYTHING a real baby does. She needs to try to take care of it, all while having to find a trusting babysitter so that she can go to work to provide for that baby. Every single teenager I know of that has experienced this ';baby';, they change their minds.
Having a baby is not like having a stuffed toy. You can't get sick of it one day and think never mind.





Personally, I wish I would have waited. I am sixteen and pregnant and it is going to be the hardest thing I have gone through. I have to do online schooling, I won't be able to go out with my friends, I will have to work (Same with my boyfriend) to help pay for this and put up with people making smart comments. Yes, I will and do love the baby but I wish I would have waited at least 5 more years. She has a life in front of her, a future - make the best of it.
i think alot of girls go through this in their early teens. it's all the hormones i think.





the best thing you can do to protect her it to tek her to teh doc and get a long-term contraception.





the pill is pointless in this senario because she will just stop taking it.





however, there is an implant you can get in her arm, about the size of a matchstick. it lasts for 5 years. by that stage she will be 19 and will be preoccupied with other things.





of there is an injection you can get which lasts 3 months.





eitherof these will at least stop her getting pregnant.





in the mean time she might want to talk to other teen mums to find out how hard it really is. that might help put her off
Well...I would say that she needs to enjoy her youth. Babies having babies is not the answer. You will probably end up taking care of the baby anyways. I know several people who decided to have a baby at age 16 and wish they would have waited. It's hard raising a baby~ expensive, mentally and physically exhausting, and that is married and mid-20's . I can't imagine being 14 and single...someone needs a wake up call!
Have you talked to your daughter about how much work it is to have a baby? I'm guessing you have. Perhaps you could get one of those dolls that they use in High Schools, that cry and act like a real baby. Or you could have her try to take care of an infant for a few days and see if she changes her mind. I hope that you find something that works. Having a baby is not easy!
just tell her that instead of having a baby, she has to concentrate on her study.. tell her that if she wants to study, she will get a nice job and collect more money.. if she has a baby, she will be dizzy thinking about the baby's daily needs.. it costs lots of money.. moreover we're in global financial crisis right??
octav -- or watever ur name is. stop bein such an idiot. it has nothin to do with bein a terrible mother, my mum was an amazing mother but that didnt stop me losin my virginity at 14 n gettin pregnant at 19. i felt i was my own person n my mum dint even know. u def dnt hav kids, or at least just hav no idea!





anwys, to ans ur ques. get her to babysit overnight. it should change her mind! do u knw anyone who has a very young baby? ask to watch her/him overnight n leav the nigt time wakings, nappy changin, conforting etc to her! dnt let her say ';mum watch the baby whilst i watch tv';. let her know its not liek havin a doll, u cant put it down when ur ';bored';
Tell her if she does she will be a mother like you. If that doesn't scare her straight send her to Amsterdam where she can live in needle park and she can trade sex for food and drugs. If you get any sympathetic answers get their names and addresses. Sent all the bills to them to pay. 8~)
Does she expect that her parent(s) will pay for it and to support her for the next x years? Tell her you will not. Maybe suggest that if she becomes pregnant you will give her up for adoption. I'd start putting birth control in her coffee, so to speak.
Jesus Christ, you're a terrible mother. One of your daughters is twelve and having sex, and the other is 14 and trying to get pregnant? This is why people like YOU should learn how to use birth control.
smack her first! Then tell her if she has a baby YOU will not support that behavior! Ask her.Do you have a job?? Do you own a car????? Do you have insurance for the baby??????
you got some kids mind, a 14 year old who wants a baby, and a 12 year old who wants to go on birth control
take her to the maury show!