Need help with girl advice from a parent?

I have a 9 year old daughter and these days girl's are starting their periods much earlier than when i was younger. When is a good time to start talking to her about her period and boys, and sex. I don't wanna get ideas in her head to young but I also don't want her to get her period and her and I have not talked about what to do.... HELPNeed help with girl advice from a parent?
Honestly, it doesn't matter when you tell her because she will eventually find out anyway! By not telling her now, you're just prolonging the inevitable...right?





General rule of thumb: Children are ONLY too young to hear about these topics when they are too young to understand them. So, if you don't think your daughter will follow what you are saying, don't start the conversation, as it will just confuse her. If you think she will comprehend, go for it! Parents often make the mistake of thinking children ';are too young to hear about sex';. Well, if they won't be able to understand sexual concepts, that is true. But if they are old enough to understand what sex is, there is no use in holding off on telling them.Need help with girl advice from a parent?
You are correct, girls are indeed having earlier periods than the past decade or so. Having more to do with the health care system. Health care has increased dramatically in the past decade, meaning that children are on average healthier and they develop their hormones for periods much much faster. You can't really stop this from happening but i would suggest that you start talking to your girl about the period after she has it but the sex and boys are not at all necessary. That talk should come more in to the teen years, like at 13. Try explaining indirectly what a period is, don't go all scientific. Just say '; all girls have this once a month, nothing to worry about'; and just leave it at that. Chances are that she will learn about the period by her-self from other people ---- kids talk these days, lol. For now, that enough, then you can figure out a better strategy in the meanwhile.





GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR DAUGHTER !!
Yep at least talk about her period. And once you get through that conversation you could wait for the period to come and go in a little more detail about sex and how to really connect the dots a bit for her.


My guess is there may be a small possibility she knows what a period is from a schoolmate.


Good luck, best to do it now. Most likely she'll be so grossed out by it that you won't be putting too many ideas in her head. Take the biology/anatomy approach and not use any of the slang terms etc.
You don't necessarily need to sit her down and have an awkward conversation about it, just be open. Like when my mom was about to start she'd be like ';Oh my god I'm eating everything in sight I hope I start my period soon!'; or ';Shoot those kids are makin out in that car'; Makes it a lot less scary and comfortable if she has questions.
I would say around ten. That's when they start talking about that stuff at school. You can wait on the sex talk though-wait till she's 11 or twelve on that one. But boys and periods about 10. And when she starts taking health classes-always go over what the doctor has been teaching her. :)
You can talk to her now. Or wait until she is 10. Honestly, she probably already knows.
it is better to tell her about it . let her know this new thing only from u. i think a mother can suggest her daugther in a very good manner .
number 1 is right..





she probably already knows.. i knew about sex.. and all that jazz when i was 6
The puberty talk does NOT have to be associated with the sex talk,


and don't worry, most girls aren't getting their periods at 9,10, or even 11, if she were going to get it soon, you would know (On average, a girl doesn't start her period until around 2 years after they've started puberty, so chances are it won't catch you off guard)





As for talking about breasts and periods, now would be a good time to start. It's always best to talk to them when before any of this starts happening, you should set aside a girls day for you two together (go to lunch, painting nails, make overs... you know girl stuff!) and then ask her if she has any questions about growing up (if she does, answer them honestly). If she doesn't have any questions, then you could say something like ';You know, as you start to get older, your body will go through some changes...'; and then proceed by telling her about puberty. If you're unsure how to do this, there are some resources online. I would recommend the book ';The care and keeping of you';, it's a book in the American Girl series about puberty designed for younger girls, it gives them the info they need, without going into details on sex.





As for talking about sex, the furthest I'd go is just explaining how when she gets older, she will be able to have children (explain egg, sperm, and pregnancy without going into details of intercourse)





I would wait until she's around 12 for a detailed sex talk, covering topics like birth control, oral sex, and peer pressure in middle/high school.
Now! I'm shocked at how much earlier it happens now but I know 3 girls who started at 9. I lived with my dad, so everything I learned was from girls my age. There are some really good books about girls with pictures and there was so much I forgot I was glad I bought it. Now is the time and don't be embarrassed. Tell her your story. I think it's the one time you want to be more friend than mother. My kid started at 11 and I'm glad we were prepared. I was 14 and I assumed the same for her until a couple of moms set me straight.